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Love or Affair? Do you know the Difference?
Most Guys Don’t Care Is it Genuine or Fabricated Fantasy? Oh the mind is a powerful thing! difference between love and affair I’m told an affair is just a romantic friendship or the physical actions or attachment between two people. Love is a deeper more meaningful attachment that includes physical and a whole lot more. As a guy I don’t need love in my relationship. The physical act of sex comes first. Sure there are times when I feel some love I guess, but honestly it’s never my focus. And I certainly don’t need love in order to have sex or to “hook up” with a girl. When your focus is dating the only thing love is good for is complicating things. Simple with no strings works best for me! I love the affair I guess because it’s keeping that constant state of excitement; where your heart’s pounding and you’re addicted to the unknown. In a marriage this is referred to as the Honeymoon stage, which of course comes to an abrupt end shortly after the couple gets into the swing of their daily routine. That didn’t interest me one bit, particularly early on in the dating scene. Perhaps it’s the fact that with love comes commitment. You start getting introduced to friends and family, and the pressures start compounding about setting a date and planning a future together. Scary stuff when you are just out to have a good time with the ladies. Affairs are all about the individual; selfish if you will. You are actually measuring and basing your decisions on how this girl is making you feel. If you like her you might continue the affair; if you don’t you can ditch her and move on with no regrets. Sounds like a touch of bipolar. I have and always will thrive on the chemistry. I love that passionate surface and sexual connection. Admittedly I search for that when I’m dating. And I haven’t always been dating. I’ve had a few short love connections and even an infatuation, turned love, turned marriage, turned divorce. Wanna know why I got divorced? Not just because I missed the dating scene. I got divorced because when the Honeymoon was over it was really over. The excitement and passion disappeared and I didn’t know how to get it back. And I knew I’d get that “fix” if you will, in the dating world because every day is a new day, with a new girl and lots of adventure. You might call me a creep or a slider but at least I’m being honest. While we’re at it, I may as well fess up and tell you I have dated married women, and I have had an affair; once when I was married and just twice when dating, in what my girlfriend thought was a committed relationship. I don’t make a practice of it but it does happen more often than you think. And if you’re into dating someone who’s already taken, you’ll find that women accept affairs a lot more in Europe than in North America (See a study on nationalities most likely to cheat ). That really surprised me at first. In the Western nations where Christian routes remain strong, cheating is less tolerated. I experienced this in particular when dating in the big cities like L.A. and New York. However, when it came to the ready and willing in Europe, in particular Norway, affairs weren’t such a big deal. Personally I’ve dated 4 drop dead gorgeous married women as an expat during my 2 months in Norway. It wasn’t a big secret like it is in the states. Just as long as we didn’t run in to the hubby when we were together, all was well. Don’t laugh, I had a wingman friend of mine that bumped into the husband of his date at a club, and let’s just say my buddy spent 3 days in the hospital just because he picked the wrong club. Some advice on hooking up in a foreign country… Check out the online dating services and use the top ranked sex sites. This makes it super easy for you to get some action fast. I just search online “the best online dating sites in Norway” for instance, and you’ll get a list with a short description and reviews. Read through them to find the one that fits your needs and get started. I think it’s time for you to take action!
Continue reading...Calling All Adult Males Looking to Hookup in Canada
- Posted on 08.12.15
- in Adult Friend Finder, AFF
- by hajo
Expat Advice on the Dating Scene Adult Friend Finder Worth a shot There’s plenty of pretty women in the sea if you are fishing in Canada gentlemen. I found a few hot spots in just about every province I frequented; Ontario, British Columbia, Manitoba, Quebec, and Nova Scotia. I’ve even heard the newest province Nunavut has plenty of action, that’s just too far north and too bloody cold for me thanks! The first hunting grounds I recommend are the clubs and bars; it’s where a lot of the locals frequently chill out; and in my case it gave me a good feel for the ladies. In Toronto, Ontario, you’ve got to make sure you blend in because the girls tend to be a little more guarded towards outsiders; if you aren’t a Torontonian, sometimes you’ll get the cold shoulder. And being single in Toronto sucks. Really. No need to worry though because I actually had a lot more luck using AFF or Adult Friend Finder. It’s an online dating website hookup that takes just 5 easy steps. You start by stating your sex and what you are interested in, along with a short blurb about yourself, at least 18 characters long. Then you’re in! From there your eyeballs will pop because you’re going to see some super provocative profiles that will get the adrenaline flowing. You can check out “What’s New,” for the newbies on the block, or you can dive into the Live Action Chatrooms. AFF is an interesting site with plenty of nasty, and I mean that in a good way, if that’s what you’re looking for. I can attest this site is a one-stop-shop for fulfilling all your sexual fantasies. What I loved best was I could push my boundaries in person or online. So when I was a little shy at first I could still build up my confidence without actually meeting the girl. Trust me when I tell you I learned lots. I will say it annoyed me a little that I found a lot of professional girls on the site; not the end of the world but it did bother me enough to tell you. Biggest Plus… LOVED the “What’s Hot” feature. Even when I was a newbie I could immediately interact with some real HOT women! Drawback… There is really nothing detailed on this site; no questionnaires or explicit information with substance. I’ll admit I wasn’t looking for anything serious, but knowing a little more about the dates beforehand might have helped weed out a few of the bombs I dated. I shouldn’t complain though because most of the girls I met in Canada on Adult Friend Finder were really hot and genuinely sweet girls. And on the money front, you can get an account for free but if you want to access any of the interactive features you’ve got to sign up. It’s really just pocket change, less than the cost of a night out for monthly access, but money out nonetheless. If you are looking to push the boundaries with your dating in Canada I highly recommend you check out AFF, you’ll immediately know if it’s your cup of tea or not. You never know unless you try! To get a better impression of AFF, you can watch this TV commercial. Have fun.
Continue reading...Top Secrets for Guys Dating in Norway
- Posted on 03.12.15
- in C-date, Dating Abroad, Norway
- by hajo
Bars and Clubs Hot Tinder and C-Date Apps Hotter When you are looking to take action in the dating scene in Norway there’s plenty of opportunity. It’s funny how Norway seems dividing in the different protocol when it comes to taking a pretty girl out. Initially as an expat I met with the culture clash of the “group dating” thing. And I can honestly say I thought it was freakin weird. Didn’t take me long to warm up to it though; who doesn’t like becoming part of one big happy family, even if your goal is to get some quiet one-on-one time with a pretty girl. As you get a little deeper into the dating world of Norwegian girls you’ll find out the scene is subdivided yet again; into clubs and bars, and the app stuff, Tinder and C-date in particular. Essentially there’s a layered look to it that pretty much accommodates any preference. I just learned that with a little trial and error and time playing the field. Typical Club and Bar Dating Scene… So the club and bar scene is pretty self-explanatory. You never know what you’re going to get; sometimes dating this route is a blast and you get a hit, and other times you’re going to be bored silly and strike out. Of course if you’re boozing it up, like most of the girls are, it’s a lot more fun, but can also get messy quick! I can’t count the number of times I’ve held my perspective date’s head over the toilet bowl! App Dating is in Time stops for nobody and with the fast pace of our world today, dating apps just seem to make sense; at least in Norway! Tinder is one of the hot spot routes for expats to get to know girls and capture a feel for the fish in the sea. I wouldn’t advise using Tinder to get serious with someone; you’ll be sorely disappointed, but it is effective in just getting to know girls and open your dating door a little wider. I used this app when I first arrived in Norway because I was itching to date and really didn’t know a soul. Didn’t take me long to hook up with some really cool chicks, in “group” format, a good start anyway. Just never had any luck getting lucky through Tinder, straight up and to the point! C-Date Spells Action If you are looking to get lucky I would strongly suggest you get busy with C-date. This app opens doors for a little more forward action to find that gal you are searching for. I’m proud to report I scored 8 for 10 with this connection; and I’m just an average looking guy. Didn’t hurt that I’m Canadian and for some reason the Norwegian girls love Canadians. C-date advertises as a casual dating site for men and women. A classy site that matches you up with totally hot women that want to give you what you want; at least in my experience. In Norwegian they describe themselves as follows: C-date.no ble grunnlagt i 2008 og er den største nettjenesten for casual dating i Europa, med mer enn 8 millioner brukere i 35 land, og over 380 000 medlemmer i Norge. C-date tilbyr den anonymitet og diskresjon som trengs for at man skal kunne leve ut sine fantasier, uansett hvilke, og er det eneste alternativet til tradisjonell matchmaking og X-ratede datingsider. C-date er basert på et unikt matchingsystem hvor medlemmenes personlige preferanser og mål genererer veldig relevante treff, enten man ønsker seg en flørt, et erotisk eventyr eller å få fantasier oppfylt. This site gains credibility on the fact that it promotes exotic and exciting relationships without the baggage. A no obligation way to get to know women which takes the pressure off. Only once did I wind up with a really pretty girl that was talking about marriage and babies. Needless to say she never got a second date with me. Just not what a young 24 year-old guy wants to think about. There’s plenty of action to be had dating in Norway. Use these pointers, stay safe, and have fun. Enjoy your adventure!
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